I always think about what I would have done differently with my life if I could go back in time. I compiled a list of things I wish I had lived by as a kid, teen, even just a few years younger than I am now. Many I’m still working on! Maybe you can relate. Anything you wish you could go back and tell your younger self? Add it in the comments section below.
You do not know everything. No matter how sure of yourself you think you are. Always be able to listen.
Which means… listen to your parents. They know what they’re talking about. Just because it seemed like they were your age a million years ago, times change but people don’t.
College isn’t the only way to success. My entire younger life I was encouraged that college was the way to the top. I’m doing well, but there are other avenues to success.
Stand up for yourself and make it a habit early. If you spend your whole life appeasing other people, you’ll be miserable. Sometimes you’ve gotta be a jerk and that’s okay.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. If you don’t feel accepted, it doesn’t mean you are lacking in any way. They just haven’t caught up to you yet.
Don’t force yourself to like something just because everyone else seems to like it.
Comparing yourself to others is dangerous. Unless you’re using it as motivation, stop the comparisons.
Not everything that glitters is gold. People tend to show only the good going on in their lives. They could be miserable behind closed doors.
Stop caring what people think. It isn’t a change that can happen overnight. It takes time. Once you start getting good at it, you will be MUCH happier. Let them think what they want. You know who you are.
Drink more water.
Enjoy the time you have as a kid. Being a grown up is not all it’s cracked up to be. Don’t take for granted nap times, recess, and getting toys for Christmas. The majority of your life will be spent dealing with adult things, so don’t say “I can’t wait until I’m older.”
Take more advantage of your college experience. Do more than go to class, go to an event here and there and go home. Join more clubs, meet more people.
You have time for serious relationships later. Learn more about yourself.
Don’t be so frivolous with money. Save more. Learn about ways to make your money work for you and stick to it. Discipline!
Be yourself. If people think you’re weird, so? You’re living for you. They don’t pay your bills.
If you aren’t comfortable having to own up to it later, don’t do it.
Don’t engage in social media drama.
If you feel like you’re forcing it, leave it alone. Nothing forced is meant to work out.
Choose friends who you can learn from and based off their character, not just who you can have a good time with. People only good for hanging out aren’t actually friends of yours.
Learn what it actually means to “love yourself” then go love yourself.
You don’t have to be strong all of the time. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re smart enough to know when things will work out better if you seek assistance.
Be kind to yourself. We have the tendency to beat ourselves up.
Don’t waste people’s time asking for advice that you never intend to follow.
Don’t allow shyness to get in the way of having fun. Work on becoming a little more outgoing each day.
Nothing changes if nothing changes. Make an effort.
We were not given a spirit of fear. Don’t let fear of failure cripple you.
If you want to try something, don’t give up on it because someone thinks its a bad idea. If you’ve thought it through, go for it; if you fail, its not the end of the world.
Get used to double standards. They aren’t fair but it is what it is.
Remember you were made with a purpose and God didn’t design you to fail.
Spend more time with your parents.
Distance yourself from negativity as much as you can. You do not have to deal with that.
Try new things more often. We all need hobbies and could have hidden talents.
Its better to have peace and be wrong than cause conflict just for the sake of being right.
Be on time.
Let things go. Holding grudges hurts you. Ever heard that old saying “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die” ? Yeah, don’t do that.
Don’t be afraid to say ‘No’ if you want to.
Procrastination can be deadly.
If someone doesn’t like you, it doesn’t mean you did something wrong. We’re not meant to all like each other.
Ask a lot of questions. You’ll learn more and won’t have to assume. People won’t think you’re as annoying as you might feel.
Don’t run marathons for people who wouldn’t walk a mile for you.
You’re going to get talked about. Ignore it.
The actions of others can rub off on you so watch the company you keep.
Sometimes you have to accept that you won’t get closure or any apologies. Don’t worry, the world will keep spinning and you will be fine.
People aren’t mind readers. Communicate what you want and what you are feeling.
Don’t be passive aggressive.
If something doesn’t feel right, it isn’t.
Ignoring red flags means you haven’t really learned your lesson. If you are wondering why you keep going through the same circumstances with different people, this is why.
Try to spend your money on experiences rather than things. Memories last longer.
Never call yourself stupid.
If the people you trust are telling you someone isn’t right for you, listen. Everybody can’t be wrong.
Don’t believe all the “love hurts” hype. Love isn’t supposed to hurt. Suffering is found nowhere in the definition of love.
Yes, you will find someone else like “him.”
Words matter, but actions tell you everything. This will never not be the case. Believe what they show you.
You can miss someone from afar. Don’t hold on to people who aren’t good for you. You’ll get over it.
Don’t take anybody’s sh*t.
Just because someone is nice doesn’t mean you have to give them a chance. There are plenty of nice people in the world who you will like better and/or be more compatible with.
Listen to your instincts.
Snooping through other people’s things is never a good idea.
Don’t be surprised if you end up working in a field you never imagined.
You will lose and gain friends as you get older.
Worrying is pointless. Its like walking around with an umbrella everyday waiting on it to rain. No point in stressing over what you can’t control.
Life is going to get monotonous and sometimes you will feel stagnant.
You’ll want revenge when people wrong you but you can’t get back at someone who doesn’t care. Let it go.
Tell people you love them more often.
Sometimes none of the choices you have aren’t good ones. Make the best choice you can and let God handle the rest.
Cliche sayings like “be the energy you wish to attract” are true. Positive energy will attract more positive energy. Negativity is a repellent.
Saying ‘thank you’ can go a long way.
You can’t expect people to treat you well because you would do the same for them. Still be kind though.
It’s better to just rip the band-aid off a difficult situation instead of pulling it off slowly. That hurts way more in the long run.
If someone keeps doing something that bothers you, let them know.
Don’t feel bad if you’re a little selfish from time to time.
Every now and then you’re gonna take an L. You’ll bounce back.
Pay all of your bills on time if you can.
Pick your battles. Know when you need to stand up for yourself and what you can let slide.
Talk to yourself how you would talk to a friend or family member. The voice inside our own heads can be cruel at times.
Use your imagination more.
Don’t be afraid to disagree and share your opinions.
You can make all the plans in the world and the majority of them aren’t going to work out. Keep trying.
Don’t let being tired stop you from living life.
Take your health seriously.
Become a good listener. You can learn a lot by figuring out what people mean beneath the surface of what they say.
Having the last word is overrated.
You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
People can only see things from their level of perception. Don’t waste your time explaining yourself to them, hoping they will understand you.
If you feel anything but indifference towards a situation, you’re not over it.
Don’t apologize if you don’t mean it. What can someone do with a meaningless apology, anyway?
Laugh more often.
Giving yourself pep talks in the mirror actually does help your self-esteem over time.
Your mom is always right.
Be surprised when life IS fair, instead of when it isn’t.
Practice being a leader.
Don’t chase things. There is a difference between pursuing something worthwhile and not knowing when to give up on a lost cause.
Don’t hold on to things you don’t need.
Try not to be so self-conscious over your body and looks. Love your flaws and focus more on your character.
Toot your own horn sometimes. Don’t wait on others to give you the props and recognition you deserve.